my fears exactly. i have only been truly consistent with matters of the heart twice; once with someone I knew, and once with someone I never met. but all the other times when i have a chance at real love or happiness, i all of a sudden decide i didn’t actually want that person or thing I wanted. It’s a friggin vicious game of tag I play with myself.
But I guess ultimately what scares me about marriage is where do you find this person? You know a lot of times, most successful relationships, people meet through work, school, mutual friends.
But what’s most interesting to me is when people just meet in life, just randomly.
You know, I have a friend, he got married, I asked him like “Hey, uh, where’d you meet your wife?” He was like “I was leaving Bed, Bath & Beyond. I was looking for my car - I drive a gray Prius. I saw a different gray Prius, I thought it was mine, I walked up to it, I realized I had the wrong car, but I bumped into Carol, we started talking, that was that”. That’s unbelievable.
Think about all the random factors that had to come together to make this one moment possible - this one moment that changed these two people’s entire lives:
First off, this guy has to live in this particular town. Then he has to get a gray Prius. Then he has to need to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then he has to go to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then there has to be another guy who also lives in town, also drives a gray Prius, also needs to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond, also goes to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond at around the same time. Then they have to both park somewhat near each other, my friend has to leave before the other guy leaves, see the wrong Prius, think it’s his, walk up to it. Then the woman, Carol, needs to be near the wrong gray Prius for a million other random reasons. They bump into each other, they start talking, their entire lives are changed.
That’s the most amazing and terrifying thing about life.
It is, cause the amazing thing is that at any moment, any one of us can have that moment that totally changes our lives. You could be leaving the show tonight, bump into someone… it could change your life. You don’t know, that could happen.
The terrifying thing is… what if we’re all supposed to be at Bed Bath & Beyond right now?
Aziz Ansari, Buried Alive (via nagging)
Friggin love Aziz Ansari’s Buried Alive stand up comedy
Reputations are just history in rumor form, you can change it.
—12 Dates of Christmas
christmas movie binge
Don’t trust charming. Why? Because the boy who can talk all the right words knows it too well. Things like boys and love aren’t meant to be practiced like that, it should be a bit awkward- it should be raw.
The best advice I’ve ever received. (via perfect)
starting to realize i was being charmed like a snake by a stupid boy.
I was awkward and raw.
He was charming and cool, charismatic fucker.
if this is so. then this great love of mine i am waiting for is going to take FOREVER!
"We are the daughters of the feminist movement, taught from an early age that nothing can stop us. That we can rise as high and achieve as much as any man. And in some ways that’s true. WE have taken great strides, stepping over traditional gender roles and going after, and getting, exactly what we want.
But part of being powerful is knowing when to take the back seat, and look at life from another perspective. Because the thing is, in a relationship, there is no CEO. It’s a delicate dance, push and pull, a back and forth, an up and down. But we endure because at the end of the day we don’t want to go it alone.
And when we find soemone, a partner, we compromise, loving everything we can, and putting blinders onto everything else—because love isn’t perfect. But it’s the really great, imperfect love that keeps us evolving, happy. And in the end, isn’t that what life’s all about?
"The mind is a funny thing. It’s the place from which everything eminates; yet, no one can access anyone else’s, which means we’ve got to communicate. With animals we use only the most straight-forward language, words like: sit, stay, no. But between one another things quickly get complicated. What we say is not always what we mean. And at times we have to fight through mixed messages or start all over again. But no matter how hard it is and how often we feel misunderstood—it is OUR RESPONSIBILITY to keep fighting for clarity.
Because, in the end, we teach people how to treat us.
Which means the responsibility to communicate lies no on the shoulders of others, but on ourselves.”
“Here is simple and happy. That’s what I meant to give you”
Finally watched this movie for the first time, this week.
BUT LOVE IT
The Manaissance, by Marilyn Frist. My friend Jack has taught me about balance—that it’s just as important in nature as it is in yourself. But when you care for someone, they can care for you back. That you can trust other people to help you out… and that you can trust yourself.
You don’t have to say everything you feel. I know this because I met Jack—the first real man I’ve ever known.
The world’s most viewed TED Talk. In GIFs!
I just can’t reblog this enough. If I filled up my tumblr with just this it wouldn’t be enough. Most of all I wish I could tell my immediate family about this because they perpetuate me growing out of creativity -.-
If you haven’t seen this TED Talk, I highly recommend it.
One of the things I’ve really focused on as a parent is making sure my kids know that making lots of mistakes is the best way to learn something new. If you get something on the first try it might be exciting, but you haven’t really learned anything. This is definitely something I was not taught as a child, unfortunately, which made me averse to trying anything new out of a fear of failure. It’s taken me a long time to retrain my thoughts to not take errors as huge blows to my self-confidence.
My kids deserve better. All kids deserve better. ~JJ
Mistakes mean you are trying and that is never wrong.
I didn’t realize until I got to outpatient how much my fear of mistakes in school was destroying me. People think perfectionism is a good quality but I tore myself apart with every mistake, even if the final grade was an A.
Mistakes are okay. That is how we learn. And we need to enjoy/appreciate the process and progress (such as learning and improving one’s writing or reading skills while studying) rather than just the end result (in this case, the grade).
Be disciplined but do not be so afraid!
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